Changes made to the big book for the fourth edition familiar passages doctors opinion. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing. Talk call your sponsor and other members of the group. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will. This prayer comes from the chapter to the agnostic, primarily pages 47 and 48. Politics, resentments, and lovingkindness by jamie marich.
If you have a resentment you want to be free of 3rd edition page 552, 4th edition page 552. But then my rights try to move in, and they, too, can force my serenity level down. If you have a resentment you want to be free of 3rd edition page 552, 4th edition page. Aug 24, 2014 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. Its words and interpretations are left up to the reader to use as they choose.
My resentments my character defects resentment prayer on page. Page 552 after all this, it cant be denied that the big book paints a really definite picture of the result of holding resentments. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray. Oct 09, 2012 i mentioned on my recent radio show the healing power of prayer that i would post the big books resentment prayer. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67. If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person.
But the more we fought and tried to have our own way, the worse matters. Nov 18, 2019 hi everyone the following passage is from the big book of alcoholics anonymous page 552. I was immersed in selfpity and resentment, and the only people who would support this attitude or who i felt understood me at all were the people i met in bars and. Alcoholism12 step support page 52 big book question quoteliveinpeace. Since the first edition appeared, in 1939, it has helped millions of men and women recover from alcoholism. The big book of alcoholics anonymous describes resentments as our number one offender. It is the basic text of the fellowship of alcoholics anonymous, and has helped large numbers of alcoholic men and women, young and old, recover. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. We asked god to help us show the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. Page 67 of the book, alcoholics anonymous, states, resentment is the number one offender.
If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you pray for the person or the thing you resent, you will be free. Jun 08, 2010 the resentment prayer is located at the end of a personal story in the back of the big book. Big book personal stories part iii alcoholics anonymous. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and. Resentments in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. Big book awakening 4th step workshop resentment examples and worksheets 122006 columns 14 to download the most current versions of these worksheets go to. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the 12. The woman quoted above in the big book discovered another way to end her most deepseated resentment.
Aa speaker turn our will and our lives over to the care of god new 20. The step 4 prayer from how it works page 66 of the big book. Thats the way my drinking began, as a way to make the pain go away. The twelve step prayers were created using the text of the big book of. If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent. Write write about one or more resentments or about your reflections on the readings. The big book gives us another powerful example of how to use prayer to soften our heart toward the people we resent. Big book personal stories part iii they lost nearly. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. They prove to almost anyones satisfaction that its never too late to try alcoholics anonymous. The big book has given me that comfort and the push to move forward.
If you will ask in prayer everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me. We especially ask for freedom from selfwill, and are careful to make no requests for ourselves only we may ask for ourselves, however, if. The 24hour plan page 5 and first things first page 32 have helped many of us cope with such a rage, although we didnt see how they possibly could until we actually tried themand got surprisingly good results. In the big book of alcoholics anonymous in the chapter how it works it states. We are challenged to pray for them, every day for two weeks, and to pray even when we dont mean it.
Home read the big book and twelve steps and twelve traditions alcoholics anonymous alcoholics anonymous this is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. Sometimes, it isnt long resentment we must deal with, but a sudden, consuming rage. Sometimes it was remorse and then we were sore at ourselves. Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. From an aa members story, freedom from bondage page 552 of the big book. After all this, it cant be denied that the big book paints a really definite picture of the result of holding resentments. Sexual conductharm done t o others read carefully big book pages 6870.
May 12, 2016 the resentment prayer i found that in compiling my fourth step resentment list, the best way to cope with resentments were to first pray for and forgive those on my list. My hope is that these prayers will provide a framework for you to develop your own or expand on the wording below. These instructions are for the below prayer big book, freedom from bondage, p. Alcoholism expectations are premeditated resentments i heard this at an aa meeting tonight and it hit home. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that. The page 552 prayer to end resentments sober catholic. So i figured i would post it here so i have it handy. Apr 02, 2012 big books detailed fourth step inventory.
Though we did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. Page 552, 4th edition someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me. The usual outcome was that people continued to wrong us and we stayed sore. The page 552 prayer to end resentments lent, prayers. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty ford.
If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them. Is it possible that the more we have them, the more we are moving toward our next drink, since we have used alcohol before to help us deal with them. The story is titled freedom from bondage i have the 3rd edition of the aa big book. The higher my expectations of other people are, the lower is my serenity. My serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations. These instructions are for the above prayer big book. I can watch my serenity level rise when i discard my expectations. On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of. The prescribed solution, often read as the classic page 552, is to pray for the person or the thing that you resent. To conclude that others were wrong was as far as most of us ever got. Aa big book 4th edition alcoholics anonymous edinburgh. Big book personal stories part iii they lost nearly all.
The wisdom from the big book isnt limited to 10 quotes. Many times the only thing that keeps us from being free of resentments is the fear of being without them. I just am unsure i understood what everything means exactly, and if i am living up to that choice. Oct 1, 2016 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. According to the writer of that big book chapter, they had held a deep resentment towards someone. Resentments, bondage, prayer, forgiveness, letting go, and. The twelve step prayers were created using the text of the big book of alcoholics anonymous. This is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. Sep 10, 2014 someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me. Aa history what does the bigbook say about resentment.
The text used to develop the prayers are shown at the end of the prayer in parenthesis. The 164 and more book, ebook, and web site are all concordances which display passages from the big book alcoholics anonymous, the twelve steps and twelve traditions, and the a. There is comfort in knowing you arent alone, that what youre feeling isnt unusual, and that there is a solution. Read the big book, page 67, last paragraph through first paragraph on page 68. Expectations are premeditated resentments soberrecovery. The 4th step is about writing down all our resentments and taking a hard look at them.
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